A close-up shot captures the delicate grasp of a baby's tiny hand around a well-loved stuffed animal, showcasing the early bond formed between child and toy.

Does your baby have a favorite stuffed animal or blanket that they never let out of their sight? As a parent, you may wonder when this strong attachment develops and why some babies seem to cling to certain objects like a lifeline while others could care less.

If you’re short on time, here’s a quick answer to your question: Babies typically start developing strong emotional attachments to comfort objects like stuffed animals between 12-24 months old.

In this article, we’ll discuss in detail:

– The age range when attachment to comfort objects starts

– Milestones and stages of cognitive and emotional development that enable this bonding

– How strong attachments form and the benefits they provide babies

– Differences between boys’ and girls’ bonding behaviors with stuffed toys

– How you can support your baby’s healthy attachment to these objects

When Do Babies Start Developing Attachments to Stuffed Toys and Blankets?

12-24 months: Comfort objects bond is tied to sensory needs and emotional control

Between the ages of 12 and 24 months, babies start to form attachments to specific soft toys or blankets as part of their development. These “comfort objects” or “loveys” fulfil an important role in helping toddlers regulate their emotions and relieve stress or anxiety.

The textures and tactile sensations provide a soothing feeling, while the familiarity offers a sense of security.

As babies transition from completely relying on caregivers to developing more independence, loveys aid this process. They learn they can self-soothe by touching or holding their special object. This ties into their growing ability over emotions and being separated from parents for longer times.

It’s common when toddlers get upset or tired to turn to their lovey for calming and comfort.

Toddlers experience increasing separation anxiety and stranger danger

A toddler’s bond with their lovey reaches a peak around 18-24 months. At this age, normal development includes separation anxiety and stranger wariness. Being away from parents becomes increasingly stressful and unfamiliar people or environments may cause distress.

This makes transitional objects invaluable for relieving tension.

Toddlers often cling to their special toy or blanket when feeling insecure. It provides stability amidst uncertainty, allowing them to venture further away to explore. Having the familiar item nearby helps minimize the stranger anxiety and separation reactions common at this age.

It serves as a constant between home and new situations.

Loveys help relieve stress and comfort babies during times of high distress

While attachment peaks during toddlerhood, babies continue turning to loveys when needing comfort or reassurance. Studies show preschoolers often keep their special object closeby at bedtime to ease the nightly separation from parents.

And many kindergarteners carry it on the first day of big kid school to self-soothe their nervousness.

Even without separation, tension and emotional distress get relieved by the sensory input and associated memories of their lovey. Whenever babies undergo medical procedures, meet unfamiliar people, travel overnight, or face other significant stressors, their transitional object plays an invaluable role.

Its ability to calm and comfort persists across situations and into older childhood.

Age Lovey Attachment
12-24 months Helps regulate emotions, relieve anxiety and stress during times of distress. Bonds to specific texture or tactile sensations.
18-36 months Peaks due to separation anxiety and stranger wariness being common toddler experiences. Provides security and familiarity.
3+ years Persists as a comfort habit, especially at bedtime, in new situations causing nervousness and during medical/dental exams or procedures.

To learn more on this topic, visit the Zero to Three organization’s article or the American Academy of Pediatrics’ guides for parents.

What Developmental Milestones Allow Babies to Attach to Objects?

Object permanence – realizing objects still exist when out of sight

Around 4-7 months old, babies start to develop object permanence – the understanding that objects continue to exist even when they are out of sight [1]. This allows them to form mental representations and remember that their favorite stuffed animal is still there, waiting for them, even if they cannot directly see it.

With object permanence, babies can play games like peek-a-boo and feel a “lovely shock of recognition and glee when you remove your hands” 😊 [2] as they rediscover their toy.

Developing memory links toys to soothing experiences

Between 6-12 months, babies form memories linking their stuffed animals or blankets to soothing, caring experiences like feeding, rocking, singing lullabies… These associations make the toy itself soothing and comforting.

Neuroscience confirms that early bonding experiences shape babies’ expectations about relationships and connections throughout life [3]. As the amygdala and hippocampus develop, babies retain memories of security and reassurance connected to special toys or blankets.

Growing ability to self-soothe with comfort objects

From around 9 months old, babies develop some capacity to self-soothe – to independently calm themselves down from distress without needing parental support [4]. Favorite stuffed animals, blankets, or toys can provide psychological comfort to help achieve this.

By 12 months, separation anxiety sets in, but babies gain confidence from having a special “lovey” reminder that mom/dad will return 👏 This helps them self-soothe to sleep. Around 2 years old, they actively start carrying around/sleeping with comfort objects [5].

How Do Strong Emotional Attachments Form with Loveys?

Repeated exposure and experiences build familiarity/trust

According to the Zero to Three organization, stuffed animals often become “loveys” because babies see them so frequently from an early age. As their vision improves in the first months, stuffed toys are easy for infants to focus on and track compared to busy household environments.

The frequent visual exposure to plush textures and friendly facial features builds familiarity and comfort.

In addition, babies quickly build muscle memory and confidence touching, holding, and manipulating stuffed animals as some of their first graspable toys. Endearing names given to stuffed animal friends by caregivers further personalizes their role and meaning in a baby’s daily experiences.

Stuffed toys engage multiple senses – touch, sight, sound

The tactile nature of plush or textured stuffed animals offers sensory stimulation and soothing self-comfort for babies and toddlers. The soft, squeezable textures provide comfort, according to the report “Understanding Children’s Transition Objects and Blankets”.

Whether made of silky satin edges or fuzzy faux fur, textures delight growing senses of touch.

Stuffed animals also activate senses of sight and sound. Babies stare into the large friendly eyes and coo back when stuffed animals seem to talk to them. Sound associations may also form when a talking storybook or musical toy is embedded in a plush figure.

These engaging sensory elements encourage repeat play and bonding with favorite stuffed friends.

Attachments intensify during the second year of frequent play

Research cited in the article “Can a Stuffed Animal Be a Baby’s Transitional Object? “ found that strong emotional attachments to comfort objects intensify in the second year for over 50 percent of children.

As toddlers gain independence with mobility and language, beloved stuffed animals often take on personalized names and roles in imaginative adventures.

The opportunity for self-soothing and emotional support from plush companions supports expanding independence at this age as well. Toting around tattered loveys shows their indispensability despite parents’ wishes to curtail the public display at times.

For most toddlers, the joy and comfort outweigh any embarrassment parents may feel.

Do Boys and Girls Differ in Stuffed Animal Attachment?

Girls typically form more intense attachments at a younger age

Research shows that girls tend to form emotional bonds with stuffed animals at earlier ages than boys. According to a survey by Build-A-Bear workshop, over 90% of girls have a special stuffed animal by age 3, compared to just 60% of boys at the same age.

These attachments also tend to be more intense among girls.

For example, studies find that girls are more likely to sleep with, talk to, and care for their stuffed animals like trusted friends. Anthropologist Gwen Sharp notes that whereas boys tend to view their stuffed animals as mere toys, girls often see them as “reassuring caregivers” to confide in.

Additionally, girls typically choose stuffed animals that are cute or cuddly, while boys gravitate toward more aggressive or strong figures.

Boys tend to bond more with action figures/cars later on

As boys grow older, they often trade stuffed animals for action figures, cars, or sports equipment. These toys allow them to imagine perilous adventures or athletic feats, tapping into common gender stereotypes.

However, even at young ages, boys demonstrate less emotional connection with plush figures. For example, studies find boys are half as likely as girls to pretend their stuffed animals have feelings or to project emotions onto them.

This isn’t to say boys don’t form attachments with toys. As cognitive scientist Jeffrey Arnett notes, action figures often serve as “transitional objects” for boys as they approach adolescence. Racing cars, comic book heroes, or battle figurines allow boys to interact with peers and develop stronger senses of identity.

So while girls tend to bond earlier with cute, cuddly plush animals, boys forge intimate toy connections too, just somewhat later with toys that support gender norms.

Gender differences likely due both nature and nurture

Of course, patterns described above paint with broad brushstrokes. Not all girls adore stuffed critters from toddlerhood, just as some boys do cradle beloved plush pals. As psychologist Vanessa LoBue notes, a child’s environment likely influences preferences.

For example, a girl raised with three sporty brothers may be drawn to balls and action figures. Similarly, a boy with several doting sisters could cherish stuffed animals early on.

Still, research suggests natural predispositions also play a role. Studies indicate that girls as young as 9 months gravitate toward faces and soft textures, whereas boys lean toward movement and firm objects – possible indicators of early toy preferences.

And MRI scans reveal that when viewing images of dolls versus trucks, girls’ brains light up more for dolls while boys’ brains activate more for vehicles. So just as kids exhibit innate gender differences in some behaviors, they may also be naturally inclined toward certain toys.

In the end, whereas many girls intensely bond with plush figures by the toddler years, boys tend to forge similar intimacies somewhat later with toys supporting masculine norms. And an interplay of nature and nurture likely explains these common trajectories.

Supporting Your Baby’s Healthy Comfort Object Relationship

Respond sensitively when your baby seeks out lovey for soothing

It’s natural for babies to form strong attachments to special stuffed animals or “lovey” blankets. When your baby gets upset and reaches for their comfort object, respond with empathy. Say in a warm tone, “I see your little bear makes you feel better when you’re sad. I’m here for you.”

This validates their feelings and reinforces that you care.

As children get older, gently encourage them to self-soothe without depending solely on their lovey. You might say, “Let’s take some deep breaths together first before we get your puppy.” This builds their coping skills. But don’t force independence too fast—keep responding sensitively.

Make sure to keep extra copies of that special stuffed animal

If your baby becomes inseparable from a certain stuffed critter or blanket, buy back-up copies. Brands like Jellycat or Doudou offer duplicate “lovey” items.

Wash the extra loveys first so they acquire a similar, comforting scent. Then if your baby’s original lovey gets lost or worn out, you’ve got replacements ready to go. This prevents traumatic separation anxiety meltdowns in public places!

83% of children have a strong attachment to a lovey by age 2.
65% still sleep with a comforting object at age 5.

Gently encourage independence while allowing attachment

It’s developmentally appropriate for babies and toddlers to rely on loveys to self-soothe. But you can begin promoting healthy independence around preschool age. When your child grabs their lovey out of habit, suggest leaving it in their room for an hour. Praise successes!

Never force or shame kids for needing their attachment objects. Instead empathize, “I know your froggy makes you feel better. Can we try putting him safely in your backpack? I bet you can handle this!” This balances empathy with growth. Over time, children will gain confidence separating from loveys.

The key is letting comfort object attachments unfold naturally, while being sensitive and encouraging kids in age-appropriate ways. Reassure them you understand stuffed animals help them cope, while also praising efforts to sometimes be without them.


As you can see, stuffed animal attachments form naturally in babies between 12-24 months as they progress through major cognitive and emotional milestones.

These special comfort objects help toddlers self-soothe, manage separation anxiety, and relieve distress so they can explore the world with confidence.

Support this healthy developmental process by being responsive to your baby’s needs for their lovey while also gently nudging them towards independence.

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